Here are a number of books and websites that may help you along your journey, broken down by topic. You’ll find advice on communicating with your spouse in good times and in bad, tips for focusing on self-care during caregiving and reflections from those who have been where you are now.

The Importance of Communication:

The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman

The Etiquette of Illness, Susan P. Halpern

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John Gottman

Personal Cancer Journey:

Calm Your Inflammation, Dr. Brenda Tidwell

Heal Breast Cancer Naturally, Dr. Veronique Desaulniers

The Victoria’s Secret Catalog Never Stops Coming, Jennie Nash

End-of-Life Planning and Organization:

A Beginner’s Guide to the End, Dr. BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger

Being with a Dying Person:

Advice for Future Corpses and Those Who Love Them, Sallie Tisdale

Self-Care for Caregivers:

We’re Stronger Than We Look, Jill Brown

The Conscious Caregiver, Linda Abbit

Caregiver’s Survival Guide, Robert N. Yonover and Ellie Crowe

The Soul of Care, Arthur Kleinman


The Beauty of What Remains, Rabbi Steve Leder

The Year of Magical Thinking, Joan Didion

What Remains, Carole Radziwill

When Someone Dies: A Children’s Mindful How-To Guide on Grief and

Loss, Andrea Dorn

Prevention and Well-Being:

A Woman’s Health Survival Guide, Cheryl Agranovich

Anticancer Living, Lorenzo Cohen and Alison Jefferies

The First Cell, Azra Raza

Being Mortal, Atul Gawande


Caring Bridge, A free online site for streamlining and sharing health updates with friends and family

American Cancer Society

National Partnership for Healthcare and Hospice Innovation, Help finding a not-for-profit hospice

Modern Loss, an online community of resources for grief

Lantern, a site for pre-planning end of life wishes